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Navigating School As An Older Adult...What You Should Know

When I thought about writing this blog, I thought about my younger years as a child attending school.  For me, school  has been an exciting journey because I can envision days I entered into the doors of a classroom. I sat at a desk, pulled out a chair and listened to the teacher's voice speaking to myself and others. My ears perked and were open to every word the teacher said because she gave valuable information about the work that was going to be taught throughout the day.

I learned for five days a week. When I entered  the classroom, I expected to sit in the same seat assigned and to prepare for another day. I discovered Saturday and Sunday were free days but I thought about Mondays. I recall days my great grandmother called my name in the morning and said "time to get up for school". I immediately responded like a soldier who responded for duty call. I already knew I was going to return to the room I left two days  before and I was going to hear the voice of the woman who was going to give me more information. The scenario I described about school was from my point of view through my journey in school.

Growing up, I always heard the words college and secondary education. Recalling when I attended school as a child and growing up to be a teen, I took my subjects seriously and completed assignments timely. Making connections was purposeful because I liked  connecting with other students who shared ideas like mine. As a student, I was the type of person who paced myself when  I was given assignments. l preferred to allow myself enough time to read and understand the work. I didn't like feeling rushed to complete my work. This was the mindset I had throughout my earlier journey in school. 

My first attempt in college was for my Associate degree. I  was certainly in the wrong field the first time. The second time, I looked for a program and thought about flexibility. I found one but , I enjoyed the program so much, I didn't pay attention as to whether or not it was flexible enough. I applied for my first student loan. I received a miracle, the school reimbursed me the student loan. I promised myself I would not take another loan. Watch your words, you might have to eat them. 

The second college, where I pursued the Bachelors degree,  was getting tough but I was able to take courses the way I wanted to. I was working and attending college. I paced myself in the courses. I was able to get another degree but the second degree took longer. I was able to pace the time I attended. It took a few years but finally it paid off. 

Now the rough part was surfacing and I took notice of it. I was rejected from first choices in graduate programs. In fact, I had to leave my home state to pursue the chosen school. I still had the mindset to pace myself and not take student loans. In the beginning, I was able to pace myself taking one course and then another. The shock came after I was confronted by administration regarding how I took my classes. I was told I had to take courses according to the designed curriculum. I was like whoa, how can this be, I paid for my classes up to this point and never was told I had to take courses a certain way. I was also coerced to take a student loan. 

This is where the problem started. The question became why are students restricted from taking college courses at their pace? Why are curriculums set up in specific ways in colleges ? 

The way the curriculums are designed are also costly. No wonder why many students drop out of college . They  can not afford the tuition. Unfortunately, they are pushed into applying for loans that have high interest rates that increase. 

How did this become a problem ? The problem began in high school and comtinues into adulthood. Are college plans really thought out ? Finances are the essential part of the education process. If finances are not in order,  failure is inevitable.  Attending college at a slower pace can help the student make a wise choice for a major as well as  focus on financial planning. Many students are unprepared for college due to unreadiness to handle academic work. Regrettably, student loans are a major reason for college dropouts.

The Education Data Initiative are from August 2024  reports the following: 

Report Highlights. College dropout rates indicate that 39% of first-time, full-time bachelor’s degree seeking students do not complete their degree program within 8 years.

First-time full-time undergraduate freshmen have a 12-month dropout rate of 23.3%.

41.9 million Americans were college dropouts as of July 2022; 943,169 of them re-enrolled that fall.

College dropouts make an average of 35% less income than bachelor’s degree holders.

College dropouts are 20% more likely to be unemployed than any degree holder.

The results are staggering regarding college dropouts. I began researching about students going to college while pacing themselves. Students could benefit from proper guidance from high school counselors. The time frame counselors spend with high school students, is not enough to help them make the appropriate decisions regarding attending college and processing the financial obligations. 

 Adults,  like students, need  guidance also  around the financial obligations of earning a degree. They could benefit from taking one class a semester or perhaps two  but definitely should not be pressured to take a full case load. 

The question arises, what can be done about this issue concerning attending college, getting the proper advisement regarding attendance and avoiding debt ? This is a policy question among education regulators who address curriculums in colleges. Curriculums need to be changed to suit the individual's needs and financial situations. 

Let's hope in the future, that college can be looked upon not as a burden but as the intended purpose for achievement for the student. 

LaRenda Jones, PhD 

The Power Of Implementing Self-Care Into Your Daily Living

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Whether its work, family responsibilities, and social commitments, we often put our needs last. Yet, self-care is essential not only for our physical well-being but also for our mental and emotional health. When we take the time to care for ourselves, we are better equipped to show up for others and face life’s challenges with resilience and grace.

Why Self-Care Matters

Self-care is more than just a trendy buzzword—it’s a vital practice for maintaining balance in our lives. When we prioritize self-care, we:

  • Boost Our Mental Health: Regular self-care helps reduce stress, anxiety, and feelings of overwhelm. It promotes relaxation, clarity, and emotional stability.

  • Enhance Physical Health: Taking care of our bodies through exercise, proper nutrition, and rest increases energy levels, strengthens the immune system, and improves overall health.

  • Improve Productivity and Focus: When we feel good physically and mentally, we’re more focused, creative, and productive.

  • Promote Emotional Resilience: Taking time for self-care fosters emotional awareness, helps us cope with tough situations, and builds a healthy mindset.

Incorporating self-care into your daily life doesn’t have to be difficult or time-consuming. Below are practical ways to integrate self-care into your routine, making it feel like an enjoyable part of your day.

1. Start Your Day with Intention

The way you start your day sets the tone for everything that follows. Begin your morning with mindfulness to help center yourself. This could be as simple as:

  • A few minutes of meditation or deep breathing: Taking time to focus on your breath or reflect on what you’re grateful for can calm your mind and set a positive tone.

  • Writing in a journal: Reflect on your thoughts, goals, or intentions for the day. Writing allows you to clear your mind and gain clarity.

  • Stretching or yoga: Gentle movement gets your body energized and ready for the day ahead.

2. Make Healthy Eating a Priority

Food is fuel for both our bodies and our minds. What we eat directly impacts our mood, energy, and physical health. Try to:

  • Incorporate more whole foods: Aim for meals that are rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats.

  • Stay hydrated: Drinking enough water throughout the day is crucial for maintaining energy and focus.

  • Practice mindful eating: Rather than eating on the go, take time to savor your meals. This encourages better digestion and helps you appreciate what you’re nourishing your body with.

3. Move Your Body

Exercise is one of the most powerful forms of self-care. It not only benefits your physical health but also releases endorphins that improve your mood. Aim for at least 20-30 minutes of movement every day, such as:

  • Walking: A simple walk outside in nature can refresh your mind and body.

  • Dancing: Put on your favorite music and dance around—it’s fun and a great way to get your body moving.

  • Strength training or yoga: These practices build strength, flexibility, and resilience.

4. Set Boundaries and Say No

One of the most important aspects of self-care is learning how to protect your time and energy. Saying no to things that drain you, while saying yes to things that nourish you, is vital for maintaining a healthy balance. Consider:

  • Evaluating your commitments: Reflect on your current obligations. Are they truly aligned with your needs and goals? If not, it may be time to set new boundaries.

  • Prioritizing rest: Saying no to extra activities when you need time to recharge is essential.

5. Practice Self-Compassion

How we treat ourselves matters just as much as how we treat others. Self-compassion means being kind to yourself, especially when things aren’t going well. It’s about acknowledging your struggles without judgment and offering yourself grace.

  • Be mindful of self-talk: Challenge negative thoughts about yourself by replacing them with affirmations or kinder words.

  • Treat yourself like you would a friend: When you’re feeling down or stressed, offer yourself the same kindness and support that you would a loved one.

6. Make Time for Relaxation

Relaxation is a crucial part of self-care that often gets overlooked. It’s important to make time to unwind and recharge. Some relaxation techniques include:

  • Taking a warm bath: A bath with essential oils or calming salts can help soothe your muscles and ease tension.

  • Reading or listening to music: Engage in activities that allow you to escape and give your mind a break from stress.

  • Spending time in nature: Whether it’s a walk in the park or sitting outside for a few minutes, nature has a calming effect on the mind.

7. Get Enough Sleep

Sleep is the foundation of well-being, yet many people sacrifice it in favor of other responsibilities. Quality sleep is essential for mental clarity, mood regulation, and physical health. To prioritize sleep:

  • Set a consistent sleep schedule: Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day.

  • Create a calming bedtime routine: Engage in activities like reading or practicing relaxation techniques to signal to your body that it’s time to wind down.

  • Limit screen time before bed: The blue light emitted by screens can interfere with sleep, so try to avoid them an hour before bed.

8. Nurture Your Relationships

Self-care isn’t only about taking care of yourself—it’s also about surrounding yourself with supportive, positive relationships. Spend time with people who lift you up, and make sure you’re also offering kindness and support in return. Consider:

  • Reaching out to loved ones: Whether it’s a phone call, text, or visit, connecting with people you care about strengthens your social support network.

  • Engaging in meaningful conversations: Sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences helps deepen your relationships.

9. Engage in Activities That Bring You Joy

Incorporate hobbies and activities that make you feel alive and fulfilled into your daily routine. Whether it’s painting, gardening, playing an instrument, or simply spending time with pets, engaging in something you love nourishes your soul and promotes a sense of happiness and fulfillment.

Self-care is a daily practice that goes beyond indulgence—it’s a vital component of living a balanced and fulfilling life. By making small adjustments to your routine and prioritizing your needs, you can nurture your body, mind, and spirit. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s necessary for you to show up as the best version of yourself in every aspect of your life.

Incorporating self-care into your daily life may take time and practice, but the benefits are well worth it. Your well-being is the foundation for everything else in your life—so take the time to invest in yourself. You deserve it.

Let us know in the comments how you practice self-care!